I had an absolutely fantastic time with some of the family the past couple of days. Greg was on vacation, but busy with remodeling the kitchen, I had a dermatologist appointment in Lubbock and Kayla had a ballet workshop in Lubbock this week and stayed with Gary and Karen in Brownfield. I stayed yesterday and today to get Kayla back and forth to Lubbock and then home. Although Karen had to work, she still managed to stay up half the night for fun, sometimes serious, girl talk with me and Kayla. It was good for the soul.
Gary was off and working hard on his yard, edging the huge and beautiful thing, but still finding time to visit with us girls. Today he went swimming with me and Kayla and I sat out there looking around at the backyard I’ve spent plenty of time in. I stayed with Gary and Karen the first three semesters I was at Texas Tech so I spent a great deal of time out by the pool when I used to have to read a million pages of literature a week. (I was up at the kitchen bar for Algebra, with plenty of pencils sharpened by me and intermittingly by my brother. I remember once he even brought home these little foamy things for my pencils so my fingers wouldn’t get sore, I guess from all the erasures!). Gary was raised around women, so he’s spoiled, but he also gets it. He thinks nothing of a woman reading all hours of the night and he’s quick to spoil us with foamy erasers and small garnishes on the plate of food he’s fixed especially for you.
Lisa, Karen, Jess and I have always been open for discussion about Aaron. Everybody else, not so much so. But I still manage to force it on them sometimes. Hey, you don’t have to answer, but I’m going to talk! They all love me, so I get by with it. But anyway, everything in the world was discussed between us three, from scented lotions to cemetery plots, it got discussed and resolved. Doesn’t everybody out there feel better now?
Out at the pool, I also thought of Aaron and Dad. We miss them both out there. Dad hasn’t been able to sit out at his favorite place in the world due to health problems, but I didn’t feel real sad about it. I kind of felt like Aaron was there, that sometimes nothing much seems to happen, but really all along, some little part of the present dies into the past at that very second. Aaron stood there once. Kayla was a young child once. I felt Aaron looking at her with pride.
I look forward to the future. The changes. Even the bad isn’t so bad, though it rattles me lately; it doesn’t really touch me. It’s kind of like we are moving forward with purpose. It may not look like it, but we are. The enemy is the most vicious before he is defeated, and he fights hard now, both physically and spiritually, but no matter what, for me, the very best is yet to come. I have everything to look forward to and it truly happens fast. I watched it out at the pool today. It was rather remarkable. Not a vision, just a knowledge.
But more than anything, I want to say how proud I am of my niece. She was fun, helpful and she exhibited the kind of fortitude that exemplifies another sort of hero (oine). Kayla joined in with girls two years older than her, girls that had danced at workshops in NYC, of course she was nervous, but she met the challenge. Little Pretty made it every day, and I know with each challenge she meets in life, she will only grow more confident with the dynamic young lady that we all know, one we’ve been blessed with for fourteen years and one who seems quite serious about things in her future, and they seem to have little to do with ballet.
At first I thought I was being used as sort of a sounding board or as a shock treatment when Kayla first started talking about NMMI, but now, I don’t think so. And for our readers that don’t know, New Mexico Military Institute in Roswell, New Mexico is the NMMI (nimmee) that Kayla is referring to in her last post.
Something is different this time, Lisa. She never quit asking me questions and I guess has already spent an entire day checking them out on the Internet and seems to understand the process. And your daughter is talking 10th grade, so I don’t know. It would be a wonderful opportunity with academic challenge. And I’m certainly not trying to add to it, but Little Sister, for once in our lives, you may need my advice on child rearing!! LOL!!
But to Kayla, whatever God designed you to be, He will plant the desire of His Spirit within you, and that will be done, so try Baby Girl, to rest in that. And while I say that, I say it with knowledge. I know you are going to rest about as well as Aaron did or Auntie too, for that matter. But as you see, it happened for both of us.
What I saw. I saw a young lady who can dance, who loves to dance and has spent years at it, and I listened to a bent curiosity, a total reversal of the Kayla I knew just weeks ago, with a look in her brow I’ve looked at before. It’s one and the same. So I just want to say, Lisa, I’m as shocked as I can be, but I don’t doubt it one bit.
Get ready, sister dear, for the ride of your life! :0
And sweet dreams!
Friday, June 8, 2007
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6 comments:
De'on, I can't tell you how much visiting your site means to me every day. Sometimes I don't comment because I'm laughing, crying, or remembering a long-buried memory that is brought to life by reading the posts, but it's always a joy. God Bless you all, ma'am.
Veritas et Fidelis Semper
Thank you, Deborah. Thank you so much.
I so enjoyed this visit with you and Kayla and Lisa. I just wish I hadn't had to work all week, I didn't want to miss a minute with my sisters and my neice, but I am so glad that Gary was off to spend this time with you. I read this post to him and he just grinned!
You are right about Kayla. She has matured into such a wonderful young lady and she is very serious about her future. We had a long talk about this and Aaron. She told me things that I will share with you later, but one thing I will tell you now, Aaron has had a huge impact on how she lives her life, and how she wants to live her future. At one point I said to her that I thought she was so brave to even go to this workshop, knowing that the other girls were older and more experienced. She said back to me, " I'm kind of scared and nervous, but I have to push myself, no one is going to do it for me. " I compared her bravery to that of her Auntie when she joined the Army, knowing that everyone was younger and the pride glowed in her eyes. She comes from a lineage of strong women and I am so glad that I get to witness these years of growing and maturing. She is surely a blessing to this family and will make us proud no matter what calling she answers in her future.
I totally agree with you, Karen. It makes me smile ... and wonder....
Yes I know, she reminds me a great deal of Aaron, I saw her eyes in Lubbock, when she was admiring the hot rod looking car with flames detailing the sides and front of the paint job. She said she wanted something like that for her car. I said, Kayla that is something
Aaron would want. She turned around and eyed me and said," someone has to carry on his name and I plan on being that someone." Little by little I see that in her. Who's to say, and yes the ride is hard. You go back and forth with her. I listen...and you have to step back and take a breathe because she can suck the life out of ya if you let her. I love her so.
I know honey. Maybe that's why I haven't been able to write "The Dance" yet. That song reminds me so much of Aaron, and she has always danced for him.
I look at this picture of them beside me while in Ruidoso. His hair is bleached, he's close to her age now, but she's on his shoulders... there has always been something there. I thought Weston would be next, and he might very well follow, but I think Kayla is next. We are a family of Warriors and we've never had more to fight for. I believe God is rallying us as he trains us in hardship.
It's why I wrote to you, dear sister. Not for harm. It's why I couldn't really talk further until you read this. I think we have much to watch and pray for in your daughter's future. I know how much you love her, as I love my namesake, but I know that love isn't a mother's love. But I too know a mother's love, and yes, it will suck the life out of you. But what the heck. You will know you have lived as you watch her grow and go, and truthfully, I couldn't be prouder, and at the same time, concerned. But God has written her life with its ins and outs. We can only love and nurture that which He has chosen to bless us with, my Baby Girl.
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